Ready, Set, Goal!
by Myeashea Alexander
Our theme this month was ‘Ready, Set, Goal!’ As we say goodbye to January, I don’t want us to say goodbye to our goals as well. I wanted to share with you some great points I’ve learned over time and throughout the month.
1. “Follow leaders, not followers”- When we envisioned this site, we imagined a place where all the people we admire would come and be inspired as they inspire us. When we surround ourselves with people on the actual and perpetual pursuit of excellence we are transformed by the experience. As we achieve our goals, others will be transformed by us. So stay engaged with our team and build a supportive team around you!
2. “It’s not where you start, it’s how you finish”- Situations will come and go, but they will go. We can be at our lowest point one day and our highest the next. Allow these experiences, good and bad, to fuel your aspirations and your character.
3. “You become what you think most of the time. Your outer world ultimately becomes a reflection of your inner world. Your outer world of experience mirrors back to you what you think about most of the time. Whatever you think about continuously emerges in your reality.”
4. You Are Your Own Worst Enemy- “Unsuccessful, unhappy people think and talk about what they don’t want most of the time. They talk about their problems and worries and who is to blame for their situation. But successful people keep their thoughts and conversations focused on their most intensely desired goals. They think and talk about what they want most of the time.”
5. Don’t Wish Upon A Star! Goal Upon A Piece Of Paper!! - Most people don’t know the difference between a goal and wish. Here in lies the problem. “Be happy,” “be rich,” “have a hot spouse”- all of these are wishes. “A goal… it clear, written and specific. It can be quickly and easily described, measured, and you know when you have achieved it or not.”
6. “Happiness is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal, or goal”. - Earl Nightingale
7. “Goals enable you to instill meaning and purpose into everything that you do”- Goal setting is so powerful that just thinking about them makes us happy. When we achieve them, even small goals, we become happier and more confident. We make our future achievement limitless.
8. You Run The Show!: It is unfortunate that most people make it all the way through their adult lives blaming someone else for their problems and circumstances. STOP IT! You are trapping yourself in the past and are locked in a prison of negative emotion. This kills faster than plague- fear, self-pity, envy, jealousy, ego, anger, inferiority! Everybody has something! This is how people will relate to you. If you are someone to be pitied, no one will take your goals seriously. If you are someone to be admired, people will work with you, if only to be a part of your legacy! Make the decision that the trials of your past do not need to be the trials of your present and future. Stop justifying, rationalizing, and excusing why you can’t, don’t or won’t do something. No one else is responsible. Apologize, forgive, rectify and move on. One monkey don’t stop the show!
9. Educate Yourself! - As an anthropologist, I see people take a snap shot of a situation, apply their singular world view, and proceed argue, fight, etc. against it without a full understanding of what is occurring. These people are showing their values. When we work in service of others it is important to remember that understanding should be as holistic as possible. As leaders, in many ways we guide others. What values do you seek to instill? How would you feel if you had the flu, looked awful and someone saw a picture of you and proceeded to tell the world ‘_______ is a drug addict’? We do this all the time, as a society!! We do it in politics, environment, school, entertainment, etc. And we make it acceptable to not be critical thinkers! Our goals require our critical thinking skills! We can’t know everything, but we can remember before we apply outrage (emotional response), let’s act on reason.
10. Know What You Want- Socrates said “the unexamined life is not worth living.” When we work towards our goals, completing them takes strategy, thought, relationship development, skill enhancement, and action. We must constantly be in tuned with our weaknesses and our strengths. Through these acts we are clarifying and sharpening the people we are, and becoming the people we want to be. Confidence, self-respect, self-trust, happiness all comes from us learning from our past, our failures and triumphs. “You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.” We think you can achieve your goals!
We hope that you go through the year empowered, enlightened, and strong! Go forth and goal!!
*Recommended reading and quotes: Goals! How to Get Everything You Want by Brian Tracy